It’s not illegal to tell the truth as I know it, nor is it to express my feelings verbally, written or otherwise; Although on the contrary, societal stigma may vilify a person. Especially if you’re of a minority demographic, or embodying multiple intersectional minority demographics simultaneously. Such as I, for instance, I’m a
Black. Gay. NonChristion. Male.
Throughout my employment as a server at Bj’s Restaurant & Brewhouse, there have been SPECIFIC instances that I’ve felt targeted thru circumstances outside of myself due to the societal stigmas and the interpersonal relationships thereby for being a Black Gay Non-Christian Male. This blog will be divided into 2 parts separated by the two consecutive General Managers: Scott Wimsatt and , respectively, Tiffany Chatman. Tiffany is the aforementioned General Manger referenced in the title.
Female Harassment- There’s a type of prejudice as a gay man that I live where women expect my friendship, while simultaneously telling me that I don’t deserve heaven due to their religious belief system and god. It’s an artificial “situationship” (not friendship) where I’m marginalized into a gay accessory (like a bracelet or shoes) solely for their entertainment. The artificial “situationship” usually revolves around gossiping about who’s gay, her asking fashion advice, and myself being an obligatory emotional crutch. Also, beautiful black gay people attract much attention- and bitches love attention. Also, their entitlement can’t possibly fathom how or why I’d rather not engage, so they take it personally. They fabricate some kind of weird homophobic personal vendetta.
There are no isolated incidents.
Again, this blog will be a compilation of 2 written complaints that I made to Human Resources, and will also be divided into events happening under my first General Manager Scott Wimsatt, and later events happening under my second General Manager Tiffany Chatman. Again, Tiffany Chatman is the aforementioned General Manager referred to in the title. She sat on my lap.
As a black, gay, disabled (ptsd and mania) non christian male, I deal with much job discrimination. I go thru jobs about as fast as I go through men. Specifically because I’m not one to be marginalized nor am I meek & mild, but I dare to be JUST as BOLD & GOLD as my white and black counterparts. Discrimination doesn’t always look like slur words, it often reveals itself as white racist and black homophobic prejudices convening together on “not liking” me; and ultimately LYING on me under the concept of “majority rules.”
In this blog I will discuss how racism and homophobia caused my termination at BJ’s Brewhouse and Restaurant in Louisville, KY. There are no isolated incidents. I will discuss how my HR complaints and their unwillingness to act, versus their willingness to terminate me based off the exaggerated LIES of others is a DOUBLE STANDARD OF COMPOUNDED PREJUDICE AND STIGMA. Essentially flipping my initial HR complaints back onto me by playing victims. I will STAND on the TRUTH of my life to BLAST these LIES for exactly what they are. The beautiful thing about mania is that I can diligently recall events and link vast ideas.
Before I begin, I must preface this with a sociological insight on the “types” of people I often come across:
-Black-American homophobia. Black people are intensely homophobic but it’s mainly perpetuated by black women who believe all black men are either 1) Dead 2) In Jail 3) With White Women or 4) Gay. -Also, thru the stereotype that bisexual/gay men are more likely to transmit HIV, as if the disease discriminates; and furthermore I’ve personally never had HIV. Thru such fallacy, or limited belief system, black women seem to be on a constant gay witch hunt by policing masculinity and perpetuating homophobia within the black community. Furthermost, they do not realize that domestic violence is directly linked to men who are not allowed or do not know how to handle their emotions dating back to their childhoods when boys are told not to cry and to “man up.”- There have been times in my personal life where I loaned a black woman friend $600 to stop her eviction, instead of paying me back she filed a false epo stating I was stalking her and a threat. I had to appear in small claims court on a Thursday and Emergency Protective Order court the following Tuesday. I won both cases. Unrelated, just a few weeks before these Bj Brewhouse events, at my second job, they fired a women for screaming “faggot” at me throughout the store escalating a minor disagreement. Bigotry can smile in my face and still not want me around.
–The Black American “Coon” or “white-washed” black person. Black is more than a skin color, it’s cultural. So a person can be black on the outside but carry anti-black or white supremacist values in attempts of white proximity and assimilating into whiteness. (This also includes “mixed” or “light-skinned” black people who claim blackness but pursue a “white” future with white partners, thereby internalizing white or anti-black values.)
–The mediocre poor rachet white Woman. This poor, below-average white woman lacks social value because of her lack of class (poor) and her average to unfortunate appearance. The classless white woman usually adopts the personality of black women because in “black spaces” she’s still more valued as a BASIC white woman over extraordinary black women by black male coons seeking white proximity.
–The mediocre white man- This genetically inferior white person parades around public spaces with an inflated sense of self-worth as if public spaces belong to him; usually standing on their misogynistic, chauvinistic, racist, and homophobic value systems.
The White Gay person- Any self-respecting black gay person will tell you that white gays are extremely racist. White gay people are only minorities until it’s time to be white again. I’ve screenshots of numerous white gays calling us niggers on dating apps. They’ve whitewashed the forefront of the gay movement, (considering there’s no shortage of white male representation anywhere, gay or otherwise.) Considering white gays are typically racist yet demand “equality” means they’re actually wanting “white privilege,” they can’t believe they’re typically denied white privilege solely because they’re gay. Furthermore, it’s says much about the white majority as a whole that their minority sub-classes must adopt racism to feel included.
It has been my experience in life that white racism and black homophobia are 2 sides of the same Christian coin. These personality types will be consistent within most of my memoirs.
As anyone who knows me and like my other blogs I will be completely transparent for, again, there are no isolated incidents. Also, I am secure in who I am and cannot be shamed or guilt-ed by anyone. As with all jobs, I’m a strong worker and dependable. During this time their has been SPECIFIC instances where I feel I’ve been singled-out thru stigma of being a black gay male thru circumstances outside of myself directly correlating to the personality types listed above.
My first HR Complaint was written and reported on January 21, 2024, it was about harassment I receive from female coworkers, it also included manager Christopher Cole accusing me of having “too many” walkouts, or unpaid checks, only 3 weeks into my position (which is impossible due to my work ethic and over ten year service tenure.) Thereby, I can only assume and allege that financial deficits were displaced onto lower people on the professional totem pole…
Female Harassment- There’s a type of prejudice as a gay man that I live where women expect my friendship, while simultaneously telling me that I don’t deserve heaven due to their religious belief system and god. It’s an artificial “situationship” (not friendship) where I’m marginalized into a gay accessory (like a bracelet or shoes) solely for their entertainment. The artifical “situationship” usually revolves around gossiping about who’s gay and being an emotional crutch for them while they go reward homophobic men. I’m mature enough to understand the nature of such a backhanded compliment, so I stop engaging with people like that.
In my first HR Complaint I notated 3 instances where I’ve been disrespected or harassed by female coworkers about my sexuality (2 of which I believe have been improperly documented by management. Both while I was facing a wall minding my business rolling silverware due to a silverware shortage.)
1. Elizabeth “Liz”
She is our food runner. Within 2 weeks of my employment she was the only person to find me on social media and harassed me constantly about accepting her friendship (virtual or otherwise) , she was constantly touching me, to the point I was literally running from her. Liz just couldn’t understand why I refused to be stereotyped as a caricature of a “gay bestfriend.”
It was light-hearted with deep undertones because as 6’4 black male it’s tough to claim harassment but ultimately I had anxiety about it for weeks until she cornered me one day and I was forced to have a heart to heart with her about it. I told her that I was a traumatized person and that her doing too much too soon is a trigger for me. She cried with empathy realizing that her actions were wrong. I hugged her with forgiveness and she now respects my boundaries. People saw her cry, but until now no one knew why. Liz can confirm this.
–NEVAEH SCOTT
She’s tall and considered pretty by anyone who fetishes mixed or fair complected black women. Her entire personality is narcissistic thinking she deserves “pretty privilege” because of her lighter complexion, therefore she doesn’t seem to be able to do much of anything for herself.
She approaches me wanting to be “best friends” because she “likes my energy.” About a week later she offended me with what I considered to be a homophobic remark. Its not illegal what she said and can be considered a “preference” to some but many woman perpetuate GAY MALE stigma by announcing to the world that they’d NEVER date a gay/bisexual man, while usually hypocritically being bisexual themselves. It happens often amongst women and it’s something like homophobic religious beliefs that I choose to disassociate myself from. Long story short she announced in front of coworkers that she’d NEVER date me cause I’m 95% gay and she doesn’t date bisexual men. I’m not interested in her, so i felt her NEED to ANNOUNCE this amongst peers is passive prejudice and belittling.
So I stopped engaging with her for weeks. The problem is, as I said, myself being a gay man she felt entitled to my energy as a women while simultaneously belittling me in conversation. Essentially she took it personally that I stopped engaging with her which brings us to the 1st documented incident by management.
*1st document Incident by management: It had been a few weeks since I stopped engaging with Nevaeh and she didn’t understand so she was taking it personally. On this particular day, we had a rolled silverware shortage. No exaggeration- I had to personally roll silver for every table I had.
So basically the 1st documented incident in question is that I was rolling silver at the end of my shift. I’d work so hard I’d forgotten to eat enough so I was on the verge of collapse. I don’t eat meat so my fuel deficiency can be substantial at times. I’m literally waiting on my salad while rolling silverware in efforts to leave trying not to pass out.
Apparently Nevaeh has worked for BJ’s before and has a reputation for not wanting to do her job. So as I’m rolling silver, she approaches me wanting my rolled silver from my personal bucket for her table, instead of rolling it herself as I’d done all day. She didn’t like my answer of “no.” So, somewhere between her feeling entitled to my energy and her unwillingness to do her own work, she rolls her eyes at me, then decides to take my rolled silver anyway and dash into the dining room. Exhausted and irritated by principle, I followed her into the dining room, waited for her to leave her table and told her not to disrespect me like that again… it escalated back in the kitchen. I told her that “maybe she could focus on her own work if she weren’t in everyone’s face jumping around sing and dancing.” I continued that “I may have fun too but at least i do my own work.”
To hear her tell it “I was trying to fight her over 4 silverware.” Management and coworkers alike knows how she is and praised me in private.
-A hostess name Anaya- Sunday 1/14 – Another day, another rolled silverware shortage. On this day I came into work at 12(?) and worked approx 1.5 hours before I was cut for my second job oddly early as people were still coming into the restaurant. I suppose the hostess didn’t know not to seat me again. No worries, the point remains that it was nearly another hour & a half (3pm) before finishing up my tables, cleaning my section, finishing my side-work and paperwork. Procedure is that I get the signature of Server#1 to attest that I’ve completed everything needed to go home. The problem is that an hour and a half after being cut, as I’ve complete all my duties and literally handing management my signed paperwork- Former General Manager Scott Wimsatt tells me to roll a bucket of silver as a favor. I’ve no problem helping the store but that’s not procedure to add additional duties after an hour and a half at the very last minute. So here I am about to spend the better of 2 hours at the store after being cut. Which brings us to what i presume would be documented incident #2.
Documented incident #2 Anaya
Once again, I’m literally facing a wall minding my business rolling silverware. The hostess on duty is all the way in the back of this huge restaurant conversing with me while I’m facing a wall. We’re discussing pop culture and the convo leads to gay and pop-culture. So basically this hostess stands over me and asserts that her “god says that I’m supposed to be with a woman.” She proceeds to add negative connotation, that I do not accept, to who I am by claiming a “sin is a sin.”
Once I realized what was happening, that I was being belittled and verbally assaulted by this hostesses religion. I told her that
“She and her beliefs have absolutely nothing to do with me and who I am. And if that’s how she feels then she didn’t have to speak to me and could take herself back to her post.” Also making it clear that not she nor her homophobic hateful god intimates my beautiful shining spirit.
Instead of leaving me alone like I asked. She proceeds to interrogate who I am by demanding to know “Well, what God do YOU believe in????” I told her that was personal.
At this point I supposed tones had escalated as I’m realizing I’m being verbally assaulted by homophobia, and simultaneously repeating everything I just said. So apparently my voice was carrying and 2 managers intervened, Scott and Miles. The problem is I’m an animated person, so any reaction can seem like an exaggerated one, especially as a black person. (Within a few days of this incident, Anaya would become known for clawing our male coworker’s ((her boyfriend’s)) face, leaving visible scratches and bruises.)
So I guess with my voice carrying mixed with the excitement, Scott thought I was really upset and kept trying to calm me down. But I wasn’t angry I was excited, a normal reaction to being verbally assaulted because historically speaking religion kills gay people. It’s like being hit and management more concerned about me crying rather than the person who assaulted me.
Others sing and laugh curse aloud but I’m the only one constantly corrected for my voice carrying. There’s a busser named Sergio who literally trashes credit card receipts regularly because he’s more focused on socializing singing and laughing. Yet proceeded to refer to me as “sensitive” when i tried to tell him.
Never at any other job in my life has the tone of my voice been such an issue. It seems to be a double standard. (Especially as I introduce a loud ass light-skinned black guy named Eric later in this document.)
So, there could be a sliver of racial prejudice here where any reaction by a black person is considered an “over reaction” or “aggressive.” Therefore, I also felt belittled and slighted by my former General Manager Scott Wimsatt because in instances where I’m disrespected or being verbally accosted while I’m LITERALLY facing a wall rolling silverware, Scott is more concerned with my tone when I’ve told him I’m not even yelling. My voice has carried my entire life, and it seems that Scott is more concerned with my tone and reaction than the cause of my coworkers belittling me with homophobic prejudice. Unrelated, Scott would later be fired.
Eugene (a physically short unfortunate looking line cook) telling me in conversation that I couldn’t be a good person if I wasn’t Christian. A statement that could be interpreted to have homophobic undertones. I ultimately told him to look at his own life before speaking on mine. Liz heard me get a little ruffled about it, we both had a good laugh.
Manager Miles- treating me like his lacky to demonstrate dominance. Miles says my name up to 25 times a day. There was a specific incident witnessed by manager Battle where Miles playfully scolded me for letting manager Jamie sweep the floor. Weeks later when Battle joked about Miles always calling my name, I joked along too by saying to both Miles and Battle “Miles must like me.”
A white gay twink elf looking coworker named Kirk Vessels (basically just a little shithead racist and a self-proclaimed slut) would approach me hearing about the black homophobia I dealt with because of Anaya, so in attempts at gay solitude, I shared with him my emailed complaints.
Upon reading about the homophobia and racism I’d documented, he takes it upon himself (racist) to send a copy to everyone in the restaurant while I’m working my second job. (White gays are typically racist, they’re only a minority until it’s time to be white again.) Apparently my former work friend Deontaysha yelled and cursed everybody on my behalf and that’s how she and I became close work friends.
We were a team that set boundaries with our coworkers and everyone knew it. Ultimately I’d notice over the next few weeks or months that she was becoming too friendly with the opposition, and thru her I would eventually let my guard down around my coworkers as not to cause or be involved in anymore work commotion. This would ultimately be a mistake on my part, lowering my guard would eventually lead to my termination.
This brings us to my second HR complaint dated 2/26/2024– WHITE RACISM – How I was wrongfully suspended after being racially targeted by my coworker.
There was an incident where my white coworkers Evan Jackson made a racist joke to my face about “having many hard R friends.” As in NiggeR rather than slang “niggA.” I’d prefer they not joke about either. I’ll explain:
After sharing my initial hr complaint with my former GM Scott, he seemed to empathize with my position and offered an “apology.” We had a mutual understanding that if I get a little rattled sometimes it’s because I have to deal with prejudice regularly and often from multiple sides simultaneously.
About a week later or so is when Evan Jackson turns to his peer Eli Lossner and makes a tasteless racist joke. It was a moment where they felt like they could quickly make a racist joke at my expense all while gaslighting and acting oblivious to why I was upset. Both threw their head back in laughter.
When Evan made the joke, I calmly informed him that it was disrespectful and could he please not make jokes like that around me. Evan told me “no.” That’s when I got a little upset.
GM Scott, knowing the person that I am, asked what was wrong, and I told him that Evan and Eli were making racist jokes at my expense. Scott knew that I wouldn’t get upset about nothing, and even tho Eli and Evan acted oblivious, Scott Said he was “proud” of me for keeping my cool and “disappointed” in them. Yet still it was an unwillingness to properly document or correct another complaint of mine.
The VERY next day I notified manager Chris Cole about it, he said he had heard but wanted me to clarify and I did. Over the next few days to a week, the residual affect of the racist incident would spread. Other coworkers were talking and asking questions about it. This would open up the dialogue for other coworkers (both non-black and black) to speak up about Evans racism.
After hearing about the incident, I heard from 2 team leads Chloe Allen & Kayla Waters (both of which will be discussed later) that Evan and Eli were lying on me while playing victim. Rather than accept fault and apologize so we all could move forward, they skewed and exaggerated the racial incident on their behalf saying that I’m “accusing them of saying the N-word.” Which I never did.
Team lead Kayla Waters (a white woman) would then speak up about how she’s even noticed Evans racism, she says he refuses to serve black people and will manipulate his way out by closing his section early or lying about his section being closed. Kayla informs me that she’s also brought this to management’s attention as I have, yet no disciplinary action was taken.
This brings us to an incident that happened on Sat 2/24: I was running late for my shift at 530 and arrived at 537. From what the host tell me at check-in, apparently there was a party of 15 already set in my section that Eli was directed by manager Battle to help with (take or start) until I arrived. I was told this by hosts to just switch tables if necessary. Instead, Eli decides he’s not greeting them at all and leaves them sitting there. I’m under the notion that Eli is taking the party so I patiently wait for my first table to serve. After about 10 minutes, I notice that the party in my section still doesn’t have drinks. I approach the party and ask if anyone had greeted them, they said “No.”
So, later I was venting to coworkers about speed of service and questioning how a party was sat without a server, and how Eli ignored them. Eli kept repeating “It’s YOUR section.” As if helping out or being a team player isn’t his responsibility and leaving guests unattended is an option.
Long story short, for the 3rd time another coworker (an unkown fake friend at work Deontaysha, who would eventually turn on me) had come up to me saying that she witnessed once again Eli and Evan have been shit talking me. So as far as I’m concerned I’ve two lazy racist coworkers that continue to create a hostile work environment for myself and others. So, I say within earshot of Evan in the alley. I say “If anyone has something to say about me to say it directly, otherwise keep my name out of their mouths, especially mediocre greasy white men who look like the bottom of my shoe!”
At this point my demeanor seems to intimidate Evan, so he runs to manager Battle and proceeds to racistly stereotype me as a threat. I walked up to both Evan and Battle mid conversation and told Battle that Evan and Eli had been harassing and bad mouthing me once again because Eli decided to leave my party unattended. I told Battle most of what I stated here in correspondence and that I wanted Evan and Eli to leave me alone and stop racistly shit talking me to our peers.
Battle notified other management and I was called to the office for a meeting with 3 managers, Battle, Chris, and Jamie. (Jamie is a white manager that acts innocent and oblivious but secretely negatively influences situations against my behalf.) All claimed ignorance to knowledge of any ongoing conflict between Evan, Eli and myself. Clearly upset, I proceed to elaborate on Evan and Eli’s harassment and racism. I was immediately cut from the floor and sent home. I’d later learn from manager Battle that he advocated for all of us to be suspended and not just me. I was taken off the schedule and unable to work for the following 3 days. (The only manager that’s worth a damn in that forsaken place is Battle, because he’s always treated me like a person.Thank you, Sir.)
Again the sentiment you will hear from Kayla Waters and myself if asked about Evan is that he plays too much and he has racist tendencies. I personally don’t associate myself with him, yet he feels entitled to play with me by snatching money out of my hand at times, or grabbing my accessory nonprescription glasses and proceeding to run thru the store announcing to peers that I wear fake glasses. Myself and coworker Alexis Brooks have discussed Evans belittling tone toward us (black people) in conversation.
On 3/12/2024– I called into work sick. Manager Chris Peick called my phone 8 times and had my coworker Deontaysha call me a 9th. That is unacceptable. Christopher Peick is some kind of short, dumpy, trollish-gnome of a man. He reminds me of a “goomba” from the Super Mario Brothers gaming series.
At 1 pm 3/12 I realized my blood pressure was sky rocketing (I’ve ptsd and mania) thereby effecting my vision I was feeling nauseous. I’ve collapsed before. I immediately called the store and spoke with Manager Miles. From my bed, I told him verbatim that “as of now I’m calling in sick, I’ve my a.c. on full blast and I’m going to nap hoping I feel better. As of now I’m calling in sick but if I feel better I’ll come in.” I then went to sleep attempting to recuperate. I awaken to 9 missed phone calls and there’s absolutely no reason anyone should ever call anyone’s else’s phone 9 consecutive times, not even about a job, especially a job that doesn’t provide health insurance for the majority of their employees, especially on a sick day. Again, I’m a GREAT worker and I don’t miss work often, so If I’m sick- I’m just sick.
This is actually the second time this scenario has played out when I was given a day off by management because I work so much between 2 jobs.
March 23rd, 2024- FINAL HR COMPLAINT AND TERMINATION: How my NEW General Manager Tiffany Chatman sexually harassed me then suspended me the following day for sexual harassment. (So basically a bunch of homophobic cuntbitches synced their cycles and lied on me.)
I came into work on 3/23/2024 and was told by my General Manager Tiffany Chatman that I was suspended until further notice because (verbatim) “women at work feel like that, because I’m gay, I think I’m entitled to be too close to women.” Which is outrageous because literally the night before my General Manager Tiffany Chatman sat on my lap and called me “the community chair,” everyone saw it. So the fact that the same General Manager that sat on my lap the night before gets to turn around the next day and suspend me for being “Too close to women” is the exact double standard I’ve discussed in my prior hr complaints. It’s ridiculous. Besides, it’s seems she’s in a relationship so I don’t know why she’s sitting on another man’s lap- gay or otherwise.
Everyone likes to joke and hug with me because I’m charismatic, that’s why General Manager Tiffany Chatman felt comfortable overstepping boundaries with me. To her credit she condescendingly and hypocritically apologized as she suspended/Terminated me. I told her it isn’t fair that she gets to work after clearly sexually harassing me, but I get suspended off of hearsay. Tiffany responded that “it’s not the same thing.” when it literally IS! I’m merely addressing a double standard that continuously affects my ability to work.
Furthermore if you remember in my initial hr complaint I said that I experience homophobia from women who feel entitled to my energy while echoing the sentiment that I don’t deserve heaven. Too many times, I’ve opened up and befriended women only to be left vulnerable to homophobia. They use what they learn about me against me. My point is, alot of women see me as a gay accessory (like shoes) and not a person. One can be friendly with gay people and still be led by prejudice which is why in my first hr complaint I stated I’m weary of who I share my energy with.
Now if I had complained to hr about Tiffany sexually harassing me, would she have gotten suspended? No. (Nor did anyone for that matter!) Yet someone can frame me with prejudice lies and it’s believed. I have a second job and 3rd job, exactly for this reason. Yet having the same General Manager that sat on my lap the night before, suspend/fire me the following day for “being too close to women” is nothing more than sadistic homophobia. So if this is who BJs is as a business entity, then I believe it should be public knowledge.
***Video surveillance will show that Tiffany sat on my lap Friday March 22 in the server alley labeling me “the community chair”, near close (so after 9.)***
There are no isolated incidents. So the incidents they’re trying to isolate and solely blame me for is that I do amateur adult films (in part to financially counter job discrimination and also reclaim my sexuality from hateful religious persecution.) and others CONSENTED to viewing it at work. I’m not a fool, so under normal circumstances I definitely understand why a person would be terminated for that in the workplace, I’m not even making the argument that I shouldn’t have been terminated- but so should many of those that I’ve previously mentioned and ANYONE WHO CONSENTED to viewing such material (some whom I’m yet to mention.) Furthermore, Bj’s Brewhouse and Restaurants willingness to isolate my employment versus their unwillingness to act on any of my complaints is because of prejudice. Homophobic and Racial prejudice
Anyone who’s ever worked in food service knows that behind the scenes restaurants are not professional work environments. I’ve excelled at working for many restaurants with over a decade worth of tenure. Your average restaurant is a typical “shit-show,” it has drug dealers, coworkers/managers having sexual relationships with each other, sexual innuendos and sexual jokes. The underlying premise is that as long as we all do our jobs the work environment is rather casual. The reasoning behind this is it doesn’t take a degree to work in food service, so there’s all types of uneducated ignorant people making and serving food. On the other-hand, I’m only in these types of environments because of the work discrimination I often experience, and also the scheduling flexibility helps with my illness. As I stated before, I usually excel past my peers professionally, so much that even General Manager Tiffany Chatman would say that I’m “one of her TOP/BEST servers.” Actually a large party of 17 people clapped and praised me as they left the restaurant, I told Tiffany to let me know the next time that happens for another server, she laughed and said that they were “swatting flies.”
Let’s talk about why I would allow coworkers to know about or even view such content… It has a lot to do with how people treat me as a gay male. it’s goes back to myself being confidently BOLD and GOLD rather than timidly meek and mild. Homophobic men often assume I’m attracted to them, and homophobic women ignorantly think they have access to men that they think I can’t obtain, and thereby these women believe they’re somehow “better” than me. Ultimately they get close to me and homophobically belittle and stereotype me in conversation.
It may be difficult to understand unless you have my lived experiences, but ultimately they treat me as if I’m desperate for men when in actuality I’ve been with over 500 and many of which have wives and children (unbeknownst to me until after the fact.) So not only am I a beautiful, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous child of God, but I’ve also been involved with many-a-men of the same caliber. So in a restaurant environment full of sexual relationships and innuendos these homophobic people try and belittle me in casual conversation. Yet they’re intimidated (which morphs into prejudice) when i shatter their stigmatized assumptions & personal biases with facts from this paragraph. Furthermore expressing that i’ve had phalluses as big as my forearm.
Chloe Allen-The mediocre poor rachet white Woman. This poor, below-average white woman lacks social value because of her lack of class (poor) and her average to unfortunate appearance. The classless white woman usually adopts the personality of black women because in “black spaces” she’s still more valued as a BASIC white woman over extraordinary black women by black male coons seeking white proximity. She strategically doesn’t smile fully because she’s missing teeth.
I suspected I’d have problems with Chloe Allen when she so adamantly expressed her disdain for the recording artist Lil’ Nas X, typically being rooted within religious homophobic prejudice. The artist took the persecution of what was considered an infallible religious entity, and artistically and intentionally repurposed it- thereby uplifting gay people. It made many religious homophobes upset across the world. So because Chloe was so vocal about this numerous times, I had an intuitive feeling she held deeply rooted prejudices.
There would be a time when I first met her and she invasively asked if I were gay, she’d attempt a stereotypical homophobic taunt where she’d offer to show me a photo of her black boyfriend against my will. She was shocked yet disappointed when I only managed to muster up an apathetic “He’s good… for you.” Other times, she would announce upon clocking into work how she had just previously engaged in sexual activity before work, and we’d laugh about how her hair is an indicator. In sexually oriented conversation, I’d casually mention my adult platform and she’d CONSENT to viewing my content. We’d have mutual agreement of how the lighting makes my melanated skin “POP.”
–Deontaysha Renee (Homophobic Black women)
Deontaysha was an interesting black homophobe who succeeded at convincing me of friendship. See, like most women she was attracted to my energy, Somewhere between her slapping my ass playfully, dropping me off at home for gas money, and yelling at my coworkers when White gay racist Kirk Vessels forwarded my initial HR complaint around work- I appreciated her trying to protect me so I let my guard completely down around her.
ALLOW ME TO REITERATE THE FIRST TIME WE EVER EVER EVER TOUCHED EACH OTHER IN A FRIENDLY GAME OF GRAB ASS, IS WHEN SHE FIRST SLAPPED MY ASS. (MUTUAL CONSENT) It was just work boredom, I’d sit on her lap sometimes. We’d call each other “twin” as in “good friends.” No harm, no foul. She’d reveal herself as messy gossiper though, she’d tell me of the terrible things she sees and hears at work- including an alleged relationship between Manager Miles’s with server Kayla Waters.
I didn’t actually believe it because Miles has a family, and his mother-in-law Tammy works there with us. So, I decided to watch the two of them when they were together, and over a few weeks to a few months from what I perceived – I wouldn’t be surprised if something weird was going on. In fact, they’d be laughing and giggling together but would stop when they’d see me watching. Ultimately I confirmed it for myself when I walked up to Miles and told him “What you don’t think I know I do know” (Mile’s head dropped) I continued on “I’m not holding it over your head cause ultimately it’s none of my business, so I really don’t care, but don’t mess with me” (Meaning I’m not one to be picked on.) He nodded in agreeance. This was witnessed by a coworker Khalif, and Khalif would refer to me as a social “Juggernaut” as his jaw dropped in disbelief. (Later, during my termination, I would give Khalif a copy of my book. It can be purchased on Amazon at this link.) I’ll spare Khalif, but ultimately he just doesn’t have a backbone and is swayed by crowds too easily. It’s annoying as fuck.
Remya Smith (Homophobic Black Woman)- Upon meeting Remya she would always go out of her way to make sure to say hello to me. When I’d later tell her that dark skinned (people) in my opinion are the most beautiful people on the planet (including myself.) She’d started flirting with me, for example grabbing for my hand in passing (she just wanted attention,) Then she’d tell me she should stop because she has a boyfriend. Then she’d ask me to go out (in a casual manner) because I’m too a beautiful person with a vibrant personality. That night out never happened, but she kept vying for my attention as women do- for homophobic entertainment… Long story short, i casually spoke of my justfor.fans / adult videos in conversation and she’d grab my phone from me stating “I love twitter porn!…” and upon scrolling & viewing was surprised that I have over “12,000 followers. She literally said while wide eyed “Look at all these followers!. (CONSENT.)
Since my March termination, Over the following 2024 calendar year, Remya would stalk my social media on August 22.
As of this blog’s publication date 10/23/2024 Remya came into my new place of employment as a +1 of a business event, after 2-3 drinks my coworkers witnessed her attempt at forcing me into conversation. I declined, making it clear that I don’t know her and she should leave me alone to do my job. She feels entitled to my energy for some unknown fucking reason and I’m making it clear that I don’t fucking know her. (Harassment.) So, If I’m such a “threat” and make these women uncomfortable- then why won’t she leave me alone? (See how they try and flip the script?) An obvious double standard.
(So this blog will be published today 10/23/2024 because Remya’s encounter lit a fiery rage within me to make sure she and her bottom-feeding peers understand that there are consequences for their actions and to leave me the fuck alone because I’m not an easy target nor their punching bag. As this is written, I have every right to defend myself from anyone man,woman, or otherwise, and thereby these hands are nondiscriminatory. Run up and get done up. Equal Rights, Equal Lefts. Equal Rights, Equal Fights. (Upon publishing this blog, Remya would contact me again on Twitter on Friday 11/15/24, but I didn’t read the message.)
…Also, unrelated but correlating,. About a month ago another broke down Zellweger looking hoe told another gay black man not to speak to me while they were dining at my current place of employment.
Ebony (Homophobic Black Woman) – Short and dumpy with a huge rear. She’s probably taller sitting down than standing. She’s always on the prowl for a new man with money even though she says she has a boyfriend. She would ask me to sing for her and we’d laugh hard at some good jokes about a black homophobic guy named Malcolm lacking intellectual capabilities and who most likely couldn’t read well. (Gay Entertainment- my songs, my jokes.) Basically, by accident, my hand has grazed her ginormous ass 2 consecutive times, and she’d mention it the second time and we’d joke about it because it was CLEAR as GAY that it was merely accidental- sometimes it happens in close quarters. (I can think of 2-4 instances where women understood and didn’t take it personal.)
(***Edit: 10/30/2024 It happened in passing at my currently job to a guest, she and I both understood it wasn’t intentional, it just happens sometimes. We shared a good laugh with her other two accompanying patrons. I told them I was just writing about this exact topic and gave them other examples. I even told them how I’ve lost jobs before. Her response was “I get it, totally not your fault!” The 3 of them would later dine with me, and we’d share more laughs.***)
(These same type of homophobic and racist situations date way back to my youth and middle school in the 1990’s. My then teacher, Judy Mory (who is now one of my biggest supporters) would punish me on behalf of the hearsay of my white racist and black homophobic classroom peers. (I remember winning a school-wide essay contest isolated within in-school-suspension. It was published in Westport Middle School’s school-paper.) Now 30 years later, in my adult life, my middle school teacher Judy Mory is not only aware of exactly who I am, but also corrected the course of history by offering aid numerous times and has proven herself a dear friend to me. She’s wonderful.)
So Ebony’s black woman homophobia caused her to align with other woman and lie on me about touching her. Before I was terminated I remember her trying to insult me by randomly saying ” [She] probably [has] more money than [Me] Charles.” I thought it weird because I’m never in a financial competition with anyone. I chose to be happy, not rich. Yall chose to be rich, and may I ask how is being rich working for you all? Basically her black women homophobic ego was fabricating reasons to dislike me. This would have to be the sum total of her complaint about me, fabrication and exaggerated lies.
So basically a bunch of homophobic bitches synced their cycles and lied on me.
Eric Caldwell (“mixed” or “light-skinned” black people who claim blackness but pursue a “white” future with white partners, furthermore internalizing white or anti-black values.)
He’s just as loud as I naturally am, and uses his light skinned social privilege to casually say nigga in professional environments (“Nigga” is a significant part of my vocabulary, but even my divinely blessed self isn’t afford such a freedom in professional environments.} One day he gloated loudly in the server alley about a sexual encounter the night before, and how god couldn’t give him everything so he has a modest phallus that he be “throwing…”
Eric and I discussed sexual encounters and possibly linking with a female coworker (it never happened because the unnamed woman and I decided we prefer someone darker. I never told him who she was because he was always trying to upstage me, always asking me where I get my clothes and such. Always watching me fix my hair in the mirror.) There’d be some days we were very friendly, then other days when he wouldn’t engage. I noticed the mood swings and told him that I didn’t mind because I figured he was just like ALL light-skinned people and only wanted attention until he had it.
When I told Eric that I was unsure about the experience and didn’t want to divulge this woman’s identity ultimately because I like darker men and wasn’t necessarily attracted to his high yellow ass- His coon/white supremacist/light skinned egotistical attitude was convinced that I was. It’s a way that hetereo-presenting men establish social hierarchy, they use oppression to assume homosexual men are desperate and therefore obviously attracted to them. So when I decided against the menage and told him that I’m not attracted, he correct me and said “Yes you are.” And long story short, as I’ve mentioned before I’ve been with over 500 men and some beautiful women, I showed him superior sexual encounters with beings that are better than him. Furthermost, we’d discuss how we prefer pubic hairs because pubes carry more pheromones. At this point he’d show me a photo of a hairy vagina to prove he has his women grow out their pubic hair… (While we’re on the subject of light-skinned white washed black people) On another day- the aforementioned Neaveah Scott would hear me say that “I don’t understand people who suck toes,” so Neveah would take out her phone and show me a picture of a man sucking her toes.)
Ken Robinson (The Owner? OR District Manager)- A mediocre white man suspended and fired me over the phone. He initially didn’t tell me why I was being fired, I had to basically force it out of him. He then says “We have ‘a group’ of women who say I was showing explicit content at work.” Then I asked if he investigated his New General Manager Tiffany Chatman sitting on my lap, he said that “Tiffany Chatman sitting on my lap wasn’t sexual harassment because I laughed about it” (implicating consent.) So if Tiffany gets to work after clearly sexually harassing me (being too comfortable with me because I’m gay), then I shouldn’t be suspended nor terminated when it’s been discussed that others who are using homophobic prejudice to lie and playing victim ACTUALLY DID CONSENT, it’s a double standard and I’m being treated like a 2nd class citizen.
It’s funny because they tried to fire me on my birthday week and was shocked that I managed to still pick up shifts at my second job next door… and thereby still enjoyed my birthday. I even told my managers at my second job EXACTLY why I was terminated, the women there loved me and hated how other women would do that to me. General Manager Tiffany was baffled actually because she thought she had financially castrated me, I remember her asking “where else do you work?” as if the entire store didn’t know. She was shook.
Plus all of her reasoning for terminating me were condescending.
She said that ‘because I’m gay’ i feel i can be “too close to women,” which isn’t true because they CLEARLY get too close to me.
She also said that I “shouldn’t make jokes about [my] 5% heterosexuality” which was only a spinoff of what Neveah Scott initially said about me being ‘95%” gay.)
She also mentions me “sitting on ‘twin’s’ lap,” or rather Deontaysha’s lap; a CLEAR DOUBLE STANDARD as I stated Tiffany literally sat on my lap the night before.
She also condescendingly ended with “Let me know if you need a reference.”
*As you can see, they’re taking everything they’ve done themselves and displacing blame onto me. (Targeting, Prejudice. Harassment. Discrimination.)*
The next day, I made 2 $50 tips at my other job (because I’m a great worker) and my art would go on to make the news (again) that following June because my blessings come from above, not below.
I’d Later have correspondence with corporate payroll for my w-2’s and the specialist would sense my light over the phone and email me some kind words.
And people “disliking” me is not grounds to be banned from anywhere, especially not without a police report. This document will further serve as my defense for any future incidents, issues, or legal matters. Run up and get done up. (Self Defense.)
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Following this terrible experience with BJ’s, I would later be worked into a manic rage by California Pizza Kitchen’s labor exploitation.
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